10 Things Confident People NEVER Do

What are the things confident people don’t do? Confident people never do things that hurt or put others down, damage their self-esteem, or try to be mean. The most confident people are genuine, kind, and care for others.

Today we’re going to learn about 10 things confident people never do. Now, let’s begin.

1. Discount they’re worth

Just think about the world’s most successful people, billionaires, CEOs celebrated artists and people who have cemented themselves into the analogues of history. What do you have in common with all these incredibly successful individuals?

Well, most people would say that you’ve got nothing in common – that these successful people have separated themselves from the rest of the herd, that they’re somehow better suited for success than everyone else.

But every time you put these people on a pedestal, you’re doing something that confident people never ever do. You’re discounting your own worth; you’re assuming that you aren’t capable of achieving the same success or accomplishing your own lofty ambitions.

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The truth is that most of these world-renowned people started out in the same exact same position as you are right now. They looked up to other successful people, and they dreamt of following in their footsteps, but instead of assuming that they weren’t good enough, these people found the courage to chase their dreams and make them a reality. That’s why confident people never discount their own worth.

2. Demand attention

Confident people have no problem stepping into the spotlight, but they never demand attention from anyone. Why, well because they don’t really need it. Truly confident people never derived their confidence from the world around them.

Types of confident people

You see, there are two types of confident people. The first type gathers confidence directly from their environment. When they feel admired and popular, then they get a sudden burst of courage and self-worth. They flourish under the spotlights, but this kind of confidence is only temporary. As soon as people stop paying attention to them, their confidence fades and they start to feel just as insecure as they did before.

However, the second type of confident person doesn’t need the spotlight to feel confident. Their confidence comes from their values, their goals and achievements. They’re proud of the individual that they are, so they don’t really care what people think about them.

Now, while type 1 is constantly searching for attention, type 2 focuses on their own progress. They concentrate on what’s important to them instead of catering to the crowd.

3. Undeserved titles

Confident people never overestimate their own expertise or claim titles that they haven’t earned. Insecure people make this mistake all the time. They’re scared that other people are going to look down on them or that someone else is going to overshadow their accomplishments.

So, they start claiming titles that they don’t deserve. In their mind, more titles mean more respect. They think by saying that they’re an artist, a writer or an entrepreneur that people will like them more and that makes them feel better about themselves.

But confident people never use titles that they haven’t worked for because they don’t need to convince anyone but themselves. They already know whether they’ve earned the right to hold that title. Many confident people avoid titles altogether.

For example, a confident person might have published all kinds of stories and novels over the years, but they might rarely ever identify themselves as a writer. But it’s not because they aren’t proud of their hard work, it’s just because they don’t need to rely on titles or categories to establish their value. They know exactly what they’ve accomplished and that’s all that matters to them.

4. Lie to yourself

Confidence doesn’t mean you need to build yourself up constantly. You don’t have to believe that you’re always making the right decision or doing the right thing. Many people fall into this trap where their confidence depends entirely on their success.

Their ego becomes so fragile that they have to lie to themselves to keep moving forward. They have to distort their self-image and ignore their mistakes because admitting that they failed, huh! That would be too much to handle.

Truly confident people never lied to themselves or pretend that there’s something there not. This is because confident people have the courage to reflect on both their successes and their failures honestly.

They already know what kind of person they are, and they know that they have weaknesses just like everyone else. So, when a confident person makes a mistake, they don’t need to bend the truth. They can take a good hard look at themselves, figure out what went wrong and makes sure they do better the next time.

5. Running from self-doubt

Fear isn’t always your enemy. Confident people know that better than anyone! They don’t let fear stop them from accomplishing their goals or taking on new challenges. But that doesn’t mean confident people ignore their doubts.

In fact, confident people rarely let their fears go unnoticed. The trick is to understand why your fear is useful. Just imagine you’re visiting a new city and your friend recommends a good place to have dinner. Do you have to eat at that restaurant or could you go somewhere else instead?

Obviously, you can eat wherever you want right? Well, your fears are a lot like a recommendation. They give you advice about where to be careful or what risks to avoid taking, but you can choose to take that risk anyway.

You shouldn’t let your fears hold you back. But you should never pretend that they don’t exist.

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6. Require permission

Many people have wasted years waiting for permission to take action. But it’s not anyone else’s job to kick-start your life, it’s your responsibility to make progress, and it’s your responsibility to accomplish your goals.

By asking for someone else’s permission, you are not owning your own happiness. That’s why confident people don’t ask permission to act on their ambitions. They don’t sit around wondering if they can or if they should.

7. Make social comparisons

There’s nothing wrong with being active on social media. In fact, many people use their strong online presence to make connections, find new opportunities and strengthen their brand.

They don’t browse through other people’s profiles wishing that their life was different or more exciting. They never let other people’s accomplishments belittle their own. In the same way, they don’t use social media as a chance to brag about their own success.

Many people try to capture this idealized version of their lifestyle they want to show off or make other people jealous. But confident people don’t let social media make or break their self-esteem.

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8. Resort to narcissism

If you’re a confident person, you know that there’s a huge difference between confidence and narcissism. But many people struggle to separate one from the other, especially when you’re trying to cover up deeper insecurities.

One of the differences between confidence and narcissism depends on your self-image. Someone who’s narcissistic thinks the world revolves around them and they’re terrified of looking like a failure.

So, they’re constantly searching for ways to direct attention toward themselves and rub their success in other people’s spaces. That’s because showing off proves to the world that they’re strong and successful, not weak and helpless. Over time, this self-absorption evolves into this assumption that you’re better than everyone else.

Narcissists think they automatically deserve more, that their time is more valuable and that they shouldn’t have to work as hard to get what they want. But confident people never let that misguided superiority infect their work. They know that real self-esteem is built on a foundation of values and achievements.

Having a strong foundation means you don’t need to reinforce your own ego constantly. You are never scared of looking weak because you’re already proud of the person that you are.

9. Stop making progress

A confident person never stops making progress. They’re always looking for new ways to grow, new passions to pursue and new opportunities to succeed. The secret is that confident people are setting new goals every step of the way.

Most people set a few goals at the beginning of their journey, and when they finally reach them, they stop pushing. They feel like they’ve already crossed the finish line. So, they think, I guess I should just quit while I’m ahead.

However, confident people know that progress never stops. If you’re passionate and ambitious, there will always be new things to get excited about. So, don’t ever stop yourself from moving forward.

10. Ignore constructive criticism

Not all criticism is helpful. In fact, most of the criticism that you’ll receive throughout your life will be completely useless. There will always be people who just want to bring you down and attack you just to make themselves feel better.

If you listened to every single one of those negative reviews, you’d never get anywhere. But some feedback is worth taking to heart. That’s why confident people never let constructive criticism go unnoticed. If it’s coming from someone you love, respect or admire listening to, their advice is crucial for your happiness and your success because those people aren’t looking for personal gain.

They’re not tearing you down for no reason. They’re trying to help you. They want to show you something that you may not have noticed on your own.

Sources

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